On Valentine’s Day, we traditionally celebrate love. Ask anyone what love means, and you’ll probably get multiple explanations. It’s a common comedy routine to talk about men figuring out what women really want, or vice versa. The common thread about love, though, is that someone usually cares about someone else. When you love or care about someone…..whether it’s a friend, spouse, your child, or anyone else…. it usually means that you have the responsibility of protecting that person from harm of any kind. Because we’re not born with instruction books, we make sometimes make mistakes when it comes to love! Flowers and candy can help….but it doesn’t always fix the underlying problem. The biggest problem with love is that it’s often misguided.
The dictionary definition of misguided is 1) based or acting on error; misled; 2) foolish or unreasonable, especially in action or behavior; 3) misled; mistaken; 4) poorly conceived or thought out. Of course, everyone has their own idea of what is right, and some would say that anyone who disagrees with them is misguided! Being that it is Valentine’s Day when all thoughts turn to love, I thought I’d let you know what I think about love being misguided when it comes to protecting God’s love for us and His gift of life.
1. Based or acting on error; misled. All life is precious. It is a scientific fact that human life begins at the moment of conception. Where many people are being misled be those who promote abortion is that the newly created human life has no value because it cannot survive on its own! Quantifying a life based on a stage of development is contrary to God, human nature and COMMON SENSE! Viewing life in that perspective means toddlers, teenagers, adults and senior citizens should all have different rights to life, and it bases the value of life on the production value of the individual. It uses the word “person” to mean someone that has been born….rather than an entity of human life. Human life begins at conception and ends at natural death, no matter how productive the individual is.
2. Foolish or unreasonable, especially in action or behavior. This is probably the most serious of the misguided, because it implies that the person is acting selfishly even though they know the truth. We can all have empathy, though. Did you ever tell a little lie and rationalize it away because you didn’t want to get caught? You sometimes almost convince yourself that the lie is the truth! Put yourself in the shoes of an unmarried girl who becomes pregnant, and then foolishly rationalizes that the life she is carrying is a mistake or a problem that must be resolved. A mistake? In any species, the ultimate purpose of sex is procreation, but unfortunately, our society has failed in teaching our younger generations that sex belongs in a committed marital relationship. They know what sex can produce, but the pleasure is emphasized rather than the responsibility.
3. Misled; mistaken. Being in the position that I am, I’m often the target of pro-abortion critics. I’m told that I am denying women their constitutional right to abortion, or that I don’t care about women’s health care. THEY ARE MISTAKEN. Nowhere in the constitution does it give anyone the right to kill an unborn child. When abortion was made legal, it was done as a “right to privacy”! That makes no sense, but it still happened. I DO care very passionately about women’s health; after all, I’m a woman! Abortion, euthanasia, embryonic stem cell research and more are NOT health care. Health care means the maintenance and improvement of physical and mental health, not the destruction of life. In addition, a recent study revealed a troubling statistic-half of women decide to abort prior to informing their male partner they were pregnant. This means some men never have the opportunity to voice their thoughts and feelings about their own children.
4. Poorly conceived or thought out. This one is tough, because it is sometimes hard to realize that we just don’t think! I gave a presentation once to a group of parents and teenagers who considered themselves fairly conservative, but were worried that the kids weren’t absorbing the values that the parents though they were promoting. After much discussion, they realized: a) they left sex education up to the school and didn’t really talk about sex or responsibility at home, b)they didn’t hear about abortion or life issues in church, c)the television and movies that they watched…while not considered bad…had open cohabitation of the sexes, frequent pregnancies of unmarried girls and more; d)the video games that their kids thought were fun and challenging included games like “Grand Theft Auto” and more where violence, drugs and more were prevalent. The violence that we saw with Wiley Coyote and the Roadrunner pales in comparison.
Enough lecturing…..I know I’m preaching to the choir, so make sure you pass this e-mail along to someone who may be misguided! I don’t have all the answers, but God and the Bible stand in for the instruction book that we need to learn how to live.
Happy Valentine’s Day!