ABORTION LEAVES FAMILIES HEARTBROKEN

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Abortion Leaves Families Heartbroken

We have all heard the saying: “Abortion is a decision between a woman and her doctor.” This line of thinking is used in an attempt to keep other people from influencing a mother’s choice regarding the life or death decision she will make for her unborn child. For some women, the uncertainty that an unplanned pregnancy brings is a heavy burden. Abortion, for many, feels like the only choice that seems feasible.

An only choice, however, is not a real option; instead it feels like a last resort.

This last resort brings pain and suffering to more than women. Recent studies have shown that abortion leaves families heartbroken. Not only are women negatively impacted by abortion, but fathers, grandparents, aunts, uncles and siblings feel the residual undesirable effect of abortion.

To think that an abortion only impacts a mother and her child preparing to be born removes the genuine pain family members experience when abortion touches their lives. For some family members, the pain comes more acutely because they promoted the abortion or chose not to speak up for the child. For other family members, the pain comes after hearing for the first time that a loved one had an abortion. Feelings of not being there to help can be difficult to overcome.

Studies have shown that following an abortion women have reported having relationship problems (1,2), vulnerability to abuse alcohol and use illegal drugs (3), and women who have abortions have a higher death rate from suicide, homicide and accidents higher than women who gave birth (4). While the statistics point to a documented concern, a better understanding may come from the testimony of those who have been brave enough to express how abortion has left their families heartbroken.

Robert Burke explains how abortion impacted him and his response to others. Robert said,

“I lost a child to abortion. I was one of those men who did not see the need to defend the innocent life I helped to create. Needless to say I have made many mistakes in my life. I have hurt others emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually, both intentionally and unintentionally. I supported the physical destruction of a human life. I never found true and lasting peace and acceptance no matter how hard I looked for them. I was restless and deeply unaccepting of myself.

Karen Cross shares how abortion impacted her relationship with her mother and extended family. Karen shared,

Initially I was bitter toward my mother who took me to the first abortion. I wanted–or should I say needed–to blame her. For years I didn’t realize her pain. Sometimes she cried for me and the pain I endured, and sometimes for the grandchildren she’ll never hold. Later I accepted responsibility for what happened and we forgave each other. Even after all these years, it’s still not over. As I held my new grandson, I realized I didn’t abort two children, I aborted generations of children.

Georgette Forney remembers a difficult discussion with her young daughter. Georgette said,

Trying to explain to an 8-year-old what abortion is and why I had one was extremely difficult. After some discussion, I said it was bedtime, and she said, ‘Okay, but let me make sure I understand. You were pregnant when you were 16, and you killed your baby?’ I had to look her in the eye and answer, ‘Yes.’ The look of fear and disappointment in her eyes is something I will never forget.

In the book Changed: Making Sense of Your Own or a Loved One’s Abortion Experience by Michaelene Fredenburg, the raw emotion of those who contributed is evident. Their honesty shows that abortion leaves families heartbroken.

LEARN MORE:

http://rtl.org/prolife_issues/abortion_and_families.html

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